Category Archives: This Is Me

Can I Come Up for Air?

I have two draft posts hanging out in my WP dashboard. I started them ages ago. But school happened. And then surgery happened, followed by recovery. And then moving happened, which included all manners of FAIL: lackluster coordination, major appliances, and dangerous flooring. But I had to start my field placement and my research job….

My Academic Coming Out #phdchat #bphd #blackedu #hiphoped

I’ve been in hiding for a long time. I broke up with my abusive boyfriend 4.5 years ago & it has been almost 3 years since I last heard from him. The past 5 years have been spent in constant fear that he would find me and hurt me or begin tearing my life apart….

Seeking to Repair My Achilles’ Heel #phdchat #phdadvice

Yes, I am a Perfectionist. I have known this for years, but I haven’t found any real solution. Okay, I admit, I haven’t really looked for one, as far as I recall. I knew that my perfectionism would come around to bite me in the ass at some point sooner or later. And it has….

#PhDorBust Update: April 2012

So I know I started a format with the first update post, but this month has proven to be a bit different, so I’m switching things up. Besides, it’s my blog and I can do what I want to, lol. There is a short, bulleted list of the big deals of the month, but first,…

Realizations ~n~ Thangs…

so the past few weeks have basically been entirely too much. between considering major life choices (two of ’em) and learning that i have an as-yet-undefined condition that could possibly negate the decisions i make in the first place, and finals, i’m spent (but still have a lot more left to do). when i was…

Because We Don’t Talk About Such Things…

  yes, this gets a little personal. i’ve left out some of the gory details, but we need to talk about this kind of stuff. a month ago i went to the ER. the doctor scoffed at me and told me to take a laxative. well, sir, of COURSE i’m constipated. if you had done…

ER Trip #2

Ok, so we know I’ve had my run-ins with the healthcare system  before. Here’s the latest. Had the doctors done a thorough job when I went to the ER a month ago, I wouldn’t have been the ER again this time. Stories like this (and so much worse) are why my friend, Regina Holliday, paints…

The One . . . ? Pt. 2 #phdorbust

Click here for Part 1 It’s been 15 years since I started to think that I didn’t want children, but that has admittedly been an off and on consideration – I actually spent a good part of my 20s striving to get married & have children. About the time I turned 30, I decided I’d…

The One . . . ? Pt. 1 #phdorbust

Note: this is partly an angry rant. As angry rants go, there is profanity.. Getting a PhD is hard. Yes, we knew this, but roll with me for a few. Being in this program is THE most difficult stressful experience I’ve ever had in my life (well, I hear being born is traumatizing, but I don’t remember…

#hmmmm…

so i shared this a few minutes ago: it’s september 25th & i haven’t touched my blog in almost three weeks. honestly, i’ve had a million blog ideas since i left DC for chicago two months ago. i just haven’t been able to make good on any of them. so much i would like to share,…

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